Caring for Your Child
As you may already know, caring for children with leukemia requires a delicate balance between tending to their emotional and physical needs, and trying not to spoil or overindulge them. This can be a challenge, so here are some tips that may be useful.
Talk Honestly
Children need to know that they can talk openly to you about their leukemia, and that you will talk openly to them. Honest communication can relieve uncertainty and anxiety, and will go a long way toward building trust.
If your child asks a question that you can’t answer, write it down and ask your doctor or nurse during your next visit. Reassure your child that you will do your best to help them understand what is happening to them, and that they can depend on you to tell them the truth. If you need help with communicating difficult information, talk to a doctor or counselor for advice.
Address Behavioral Changes
Although children with leukemia often display astounding levels of maturity and bravery in coping with their illness, most experience anger, tantrums, and withdrawal at least occasionally. While these feelings are normal and understandable, it is important not to let them get out of control.
It is natural for parents to want to overlook behavioral problems that would get siblings in trouble, but family life will be smoother if you continue to set limits and consistently stick to your set of family rules.
Controlling your own feelings of anger and frustration is an important first step. Children often model the behavior of their parents and other adults. If your child is angry or hostile, try to deal with it as you would if he or she wasn’t sick. This might include time-outs or loss of privileges. If tantrums are frequent, a professional counselor can help a child learn to channel anger appropriately.
Keep in mind that some medications can have an effect on your child’s mood. Ask your doctor or nurse if this may be the case in your child, and what they may recommend to address such issues.
Most experts say that temporary withdrawal can be a good way to come to grips with strong feelings. But ongoing withdrawal can be a sign of depression. Try to help your child learn to express feelings safely, and consider professional counseling if withdrawal persists.
Offer Praise
Your child will undoubtedly struggle with many physical and emotional challenges over the course of treatment. Be sure to express your pride and admiration for his or her strength and perseverance. Also, when appropriate, praise your child for his or her ability to communicate feelings about the disease.
Reach Out
You may wish to talk with other parents of children with cancer. Advocacy and support groups can be a great resource. Learn more about these kinds of groups. |